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White Rice with Green Onion and Cilantro

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White rice with cilantro and green onion

All right men. Here is a vary easy dish to make your wife. This goes great with fish.

 What you will need:

1 cup uncooked white rice

2 cups chicken broth

1 bushel of green onion (makes about 2 tablespoons)

1 tablespoon of olive oil

¼ teaspoon garlic powder

1 bushel of cilantro (divided)

Directions:

First add the olive oil and rice to a large skillet over medium heat and cook the rice until golden brown.

Next add the broth, about ¾ of the cilantro, green onions, garlic powder, and bring to a boil. Once boiling reduce the temperature and let it simmer for 20 minutes.

Once done add the rest of the rest of the cilantro cook for another 5 minutes, then serve.

Introduce your adopted children like that?

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There is one thing that bugs the hell out of me with some parents who adopt children. It how they introduce their adopted children. They may introduce them, saying something like this; “This is my wife Kami, my daughter Samantha, my son Scott, and this, here is my adopted son Billy.

Why do these people have to introduce their kids, that they have adopted, as their adopted children? Are they trying to say? Hey look, at me, I adopted this kid, so praise me and impress by me. Or are they trying to remind their kid that they have been adopted? As if the kid owes them something. I just don’t get it.

Why is this child referred to as an adopted son or adopted daughter? And not just their son or their daughter? What is the purpose of making people aware of their childs status? I don’t get this. Personally, I think the only person who should be telling people about the adoption status of the child, should be the child themselves. Unless there is an absolute need to do so.

If I ever have the opportunity to adopt a child. I would never introduce them as my adopted kid. Because, to me, the child would just be my kid. Adoption, would be merely the method in which the child came into our lives. And frankly, it’s not anybody’s business on how anybody came about having a child. Be through adoption, or sexually conceived.

I mean. When was the last time you’ve heard somebody say, “here is my sexually conceived son, Joe.” I would be willing to guess nobody introduces their child in such a manner. So why is it, people feel the need to inform other people that a particular child of theirs, or any child of theirs, is an adopted child?

The minute somebody introduces their children like that to me. The first thing that comes into my mind, is that, this person is trying to impress me with what he has done. And the minute they do that, I’m not only, not impressed. I am utterly turned off and repulsed by that person.

I don’t know if I’m alone in this, but this is how I feel.

Father’s day.

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Well today is fathers day. And it is also the day that Elijah turned 7 months old. So it made father’s day feel just a bit more special.

For father’s day I attempted to spend as much time as I could with Elijah before work, even though it was not much and due to something we forget to do, what little time we had wad cut short as we all left the house to do, what we forgot to do.

With that said. What little time I had with this little angel, that I call son. Was tiime that was well spent. Heck any father son time, be it father’s day or not is time well spent.

Frankly, I can’t wait tell he is old enough to say the words himself… “happy father’s day, daddy!”

Raising kids can be easier then you think.

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It is often said raising children is a very hard and time-consuming experience. However, it doesn’t actually have to be that hard, nor does it have to take up that much time. Now don’t get me wrong having children is a lot more difficult than not having children. One of the biggest factors why many people choose not to have kids or limit the amount that they have is that in today’s world, it’s viewed as something very difficult, and time-consuming. Requiring a lot of effort from the parents.

However, how difficult it is I suspect has a lot to do with the parent’s method of raising their children. One of the things I noticed when I watch shows like, Super Nanny where these parents have such a hard time with their children is that they really don’t have a clue on how to raise their own children. Often resorting to yelling, threats and even the use of physical violence on children (spanking). Only to have the nanny use very simple things that require very little effort and time to achieve far better results.

It still requires effort some effert on the parent’s part. However, if you’re doing things right as a parent, you shouldn’t feel overwhelmed. Things should almost seemed to come easy. Unfortunately, many parents don’t want to hear that their parenting style is wrong. I know this firsthand.

I’ve often told parents that they’re doing a horrible job of raising their kids. Well I do it with more tact, anyways. And they almost immediately become defensive. Because, often they themselves were raised in the same or similar way. And they don’t want to here they are doing it wrong or take a little effort now out of their day today, not knowing that by tomorrow ( figuratively speaking) that will require less effort than what they are putting in with the current parenting style method.

Let’s face it, most people are ill-equipped to be a good parent. Most people think that a child’s behavior when he gets older is a result of how strict and tough you are on the kid, or how lenient and loving you on him are her. Unaware that the biggest factor actually is genetics. Ultimately, the parent’s job is just to get them through childhood. Their genetics will do most of the work for them when they get older.

Unfortunately, many of these parents will continue using the same parenting method or at least a similar parenting method as their own parents. Thinking because they turned out okay (thanks to genetics), and all it took was a lot of being yelled at, or physically assaulted by their own parents to turn them around. Have you ever watched the television series called “16 and pregnant”? These parenting styles are passed on from one generation to another. The mom thinks she turned out fine some times. However, when she looks at her kid, she can’t figure out why her daughter is turning out why she is the way she is. Disobedient, getting into trouble, using drugs and even getting pregnant. All while having so much difficulty controlling their daughters.

The primary reason for this difficulty is their parenting style, there left clueless. But, thoughs of us who are watching from the outside, find ourselves screaming at the television saying things like “no wonder she’s getting pregnant at 16.” Or things like, “no wonder she’s sneaking out and doing drugs.”

We can see it from the outside. However, they don’t seem to see it from the inside. Nor do they probably even want to hear that their parenting style is not working. And that their job is so much harder because of it. One thing I think a lot of people need to do is take a step back, and actually ask other parents, parents  who make raising children look easy, what they think of their own parenting style. Ask them for suggestions and tips. Try to mimic their parenting style. Ask them to go to their house and just observe them. You’d be surprised.

However, ultimately, the difficulty of a parent has, is not because they have a difficult child but is because their parenting style makes it difficult. So if you find being a parent to be hard, try changing things up in the way you raise them. Because if you are doing it right it should feel fairly easy (most of the time).

Elijah is always watching and learning.

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Elijah seems to like to know where I am in the house. If I leave the room, he will sometimes will cry and won’t stop until he can see me again.

If I am in the kitchen cooking up something, he will ether just sit there watching me or try and make his way over to me, studying me and what ever I am doing. It is rather flattering to think that he is learning from me. What he is learning exactly, I don’t know. Because, I am sure he not learning my secrets of cooking. Perhaps he is just studying my movements.

What ever it is, it is great to think he is learning from me. Things that will most likely stay with him his whole life. Little things he will take for granted, never thinking about where or who he learned it from as he is doing it every day of his life.

Think about it. Many, if not most of your childs language skills came from you. Every time he or she talks, it was because of you and your partner. Your child will use that skill every day. Using it to make friends, get a job, even to attract a mate and to teach their own child. A skill that he or she had originally learned from you and most likely will never think twice about how it came from you.

This also means as a dad (or mom) you have a lot of responsibility, especially in the early years, as your child studys you, learning his or her own skills from you. Even their temperament may ccome from you. This is why people say the apple does not fall far from the tree.

So be flattered. And live a good, godly life. Because, someone is watching and learning from you.

Luz and Elijah are back home.

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Well, Luz and wee-man are back home. I had to make a unplanned trip to California to pick them up. However, it did give us an excuse to spend a whole day together in a really nice rent-o car. So it was worth the trip.

With that said, I still feel exhausted as if I am suffering from jet lag. With my sleeping pattern all messed up now. Hopefully, by next week I’ll be back to normal.

Seeing Elijah after a month was something else. He has gotten so big and he really likes to interact with people. He much more vocal and has started to play with toys. Not to mention, he is now picking him self up on all fours. I suspect he will be crawling fairly soon. I do feel bad that I missed all this stuff, when he first started all this, but he is here now.

Luz, well as soon as she got home she already started doing her thing, redecorating the apartment with a bunch of things she had bring with her from california (plants, curtains, etc..). Today, we even got more stuff for her to decorate the apartment with. Including a bunch of sticker-like-things for Elijiah’s room. I swear she should actually be an interior decorator, or designer. Not only is she good at it, but she loves to do it.

Now, all we just need to do is just finish finding her car, then I’m going to take some vacation time with her. Maybe we’ll go camping together somewhere.

Say no to circumcision.

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If you noticed, I now have a banner on the side of my blog that people can click on, in order to help end the practice of mutilating the genitalia of the most helpless of her male gender. Those who are under 18 whose parents decide for whatever reason to have this unnecessary surgical procedure performed on them. A surgical procedure that can wait until the child has grown up in an adult research the different sides and risks on his own, and make an informed decision concerning his own body. I’ve also included a larger batter in this blog post.


Visit Intact America and help stop infant circumcision.

Our little mans got himself a case of diaper rash.

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Well, Elijah got himself a case of diaper rash on his little bum making changing his diaper unfun for our little man. So we are switch to our cloth diapers sooner to help.

We already planned to use cloth diapers, but we had been given so many possible diapers that we decided to use them up first. But now with the diaper rash it looks like we well be skipping that plan in order help get ride of the rash much faster.

So far Elijah seems to rather enjoy his first cloth diaper we put on him. It almost has a soothing effect.

Elijah and Luz getting sleep.

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Well, Elijah has only been born a few weeks ago and already I can see that he has gotten bigger. And definitely a lot cuter.

Luz is not getting much sleep at night. I have offered her to let me get up and feed and change the little guy. But Luz wants to do that and seem vary dedicated to doing this stuff.

So I am left feeling like the dad you does not lift a finger. But I think the reasoning behind this is, because Luz thinks that, because I go to work, the kind of work that takes its toll on me physically and mentally. Luz feels that she needs to.

I understand this, but I think what Luz is doing at home is far harder then what I do. So I want to help. I want to give her a chance to get a good nights rest.

My first post here on fatherhoodUncensored.

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With my wife staying in California for the next few weeks, spending time with family before she gives birth to our first child around November or December. I found myself suffering a great deal from the effects of boredom. This entire time I had been just sitting in my bed doing nothing (it’s amazing how much you miss your wife when she’s not around).

So to counteract my boredom, I decided to start a new blog. One more represents a direction I would like to go with blogging. And that is fatherhood. I find myself very opinionated about children and raising them. I was never very opinionated about children and how to raise them before. But now that I have a child on the way, I find myself very opinionated.

So here I am with a new blog and my own domain, fatherhoodUncensored.com. Which could have ended up being fatherhoodUncensered.com . Because when I was filling out the online form for the domain I submitted it spelled just like that, with a “e” and not an “o”. Needless to say I felt stupid, and deservedly so. Because I already wrote it out and then was copying and pasting it when I was asked for the domain name.

Fortunately I was able to get this problem corrected, so I don’t look too stupid. However, my wordpress default domain is http://fhuncensored.wordpress.com. And I’m not sure how to correct that. The good thing is most people will never notice as well be redirected to this domain.

Anyways, I hope exposed people around the world to my opinion.